Dreams indulge us into various emotions,reactions and false circumstances.What if we could control them.It would spice up the sleep time with intrigue.That is called lucid dreaming.It has gained a keen interest in recent days .People found ways to lucid dream because of it’s ability to increase our creativity and lateral thinking.This infact came into consideration only after the invention of tailoring machine.Dating back to 1846 Elias Howe discovered a way to insert the needle with the thread ,making it travel in and out of the clothes.Further many famous personalities like Beethoven,Ramanujam.This boosted the curiosity among peeps.They tried and succeeded in atleast one way to induce lucid dreaming among gamut of ways.One of the interesting way to instigate lucid dreaming is to connect all our dreams that we go through everyday.Obviously we don’t remember all we dreamt .So it is better to write down the dreams we get everyday and obtain connection with all to sort out the actual pathway of our dream.Which when encountered aptly lucid dreaming becomes a cake walk.Coming to the end,you will be the ruler of your dreams.
“Radha Bani-Thani” or “The Indian Mona Lisa” is a well known Indian miniature painting of the Marwar school of Kishangarh. It was painted by Nihalchand during the time of king Sawant Singh.
Bani Thani was a singer and poet in Sawant Singh’s court. She was always well dressed and hence the name, Bani Thani. The painting is said to be inspired by Radha (Lord Krishna’s consort) as Sawant Singh was a devotee of Lord Krishna. Bani Thani later became his queen.
The distinct features of the painting include arched eyebrows, pointed nose, lotus shaped eyes and thin lips. Bani Thani can be seen wearing lehenga-choli with transparent printed veil. She is wearing pearl jewellery. Her long and curly locks add beauty to the painting. She is holding two lotus buds in her left hand and is holding her veil with the right hand. Her enigmatic smile is compared to that of Mona Lisa.
The dark background of the painting highlights its subject. This painting was also featured in an Indian stamp. We can also see the influence of Mughal school as this is a side-profile portrait. This artwork is considered as the masterpiece of artist Nihalchand.
It is now a part of National Museum, New Delhi.
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When we face unfavourable situations in life. We make it worse and even worse for ourselves.
We are sensible until problems don’t cross our way. When things are right we are fine.
We face real situations when stuff doesn’t go according to us.
In Unfavourable conditions of our life, all our sensibility fades away somewhere. We even lose our steadiness in these kinda situations.
Teeny – Weeny problems seems elephantine to us.
The imbalance between our heart, senses and circumstances makes it even more terrible.
And because of this, we start going towards the things where we shouldn’t. The consequence is our terrible situation becomes more terrible. In everyone’s life, there comes a bad time. You will not see a single person in your life who has not suffered fugly conditions in their life.
We all face it.
Do remember these situations are temporary.
They not permanent.
Bad days not always remain in your life. The way they come in the same way they go.
Most of the people come out from these fugly situations but some not. Some exhaust their whole life in them.
Life is easy-peasy.
Life is beautiful.
We make it puzzling and thorny for us.
Never say never
Yeah, never say never.
Don’t stop yourself and never quit on things.
Sometimes the time is stony, tough and herculean.
And its become very difficult to get out of the situation but time is a healer and these kinda situation goes with time.
When you are facing problems in life think that this is a bumpy, lumpy and stony ride after which you will reach to your destination for which you were waiting for years.
I don’t know who all relate with me but for me, Bollywood music is like a part of my life if this music weren’t there life would have become soo boring.we all would have missed party songs which automatically gives a boose at parties. I love to hear party songs when I am in the mood of celebrations or to rock a party hard!!!
if you are to rock a party or want to create party mood let me suggest some cool songs which will make you groove and break the dance floor.
1) Birthday Bash -by Yo-Yo Honey Singh and Amanjot Singh Panwar
No matter what is the occasion this song has to be there on the list. It just makes people jump on the dance floor and gives the booze for the party. This is the song from the movie “Dilliwali Zaalim Girlfriend” released in 2015.
2) Abhi Toh Party Shuru Hui Hai -by Badshah and Aastha Gill
This is one of the best tracks to dance on. This is the song from the movie Khoobsurat. The movie was not a big hit but this song became the anthem song for all the parties.
3) Char Baj Gaye – Hard Kaur
A song that is still played in parties even after soo many years. It was released in 2011 in movie F.A.L.T.U
This song still hits everyone’s mind at DJ parties organized in college days.
Three years back, I welcomed a small stray dog in my house. It is now known as Tuffy. Since then Tuffy has become an important part of the family and is treated like a small child.
But are the other stray dogs lucky enough? Since the past few months, I have been reading several cases of mistreatment of animals. The Hindu featured an article which states that an angry butcher stabbed a stray dog to death in Goregaon, orphaning her six puppies. Are these animals our objects to express anger? Are they not living beings? The butcher was released on bail on a minimal fine of Rs. 100. What would have been the consequences if that butcher had killed another man in anger? Why are animals not treated as living beings?
It is high time that the Government needs to make the laws related to Prevention of Cruelty to Animals Act, 1960 stricter. We people need to realize that animals are not lifeless. All lives matter.
In early 2019, I had been to a relative’s wedding situated in a semi-urban area. While returning I saw a puppy lying on the road, its skull was smashed and covered with blood and all the vehicles were passing over it. Are we so selfish that we cannot give a few seconds for the innocent animals to cross the road? Do these people even feel guilty of murdering an animal?
I have been following the work of Animal Aid Unlimited, an NGO based in Udaipur which is a rescue centre for injured and ill-street animals. And it is so nerve-racking to see stray animals in such pain. In one such video, someone had tightly tied a metal string around a dog’s stomach leading to a deep cut in the dog’s belly. What is so pleasant in doing such things? How about tying a metal string around one’s own belly? Let one feel the same pleasure as that dog.
Recently, 90 dogs were found dead in Buldhana with muzzles and legs tied. Killing of stray dogs is illegal in India but no strict action is taken for the same. It is true that we look at animals as toys.
Would my Tuffy had been alive if I have had not adopted him? I doubt. Let’s pledge together to make this planet a better place for animals too. As quoted by Martin Buber, “An animal’s eyes have the power to speak a great language”. Let’s make sure we listen to them.
Image Source: Help Animals India
Nature, a place that everyone loves to go. A place that soothes our soul no matter whats happening. The flowing river, surrounding nature, fauna everything is worth watching. It’s something that one can revisit again. Every time one can see different looks as if the nature is changing it’s costume. It’s something that can’t be forgotten.
….Em & the Big Hoom….A tale that sinks into the human consciousness…. Ann Mary Biju firstname.lastname@example.org
A tale that is fiercely emotional, thought provoking and a pleasure to be read along with some impeccable moments of laughter while being as deep as it could get ,“Em and the Big Hoom” explores the question of mental health as a spectrum that the human mind constantly tries to make sense of, both as the one facing such a distress or as the other who is subject to be around such a kin. Situated within the context of a lower-middle class family in which the mother of the protagonist is subject to mental trauma, it is around this sole figure that the lives of the others in the family revolve. The story line is quite simple and run through a mentally ill mother, her two children and her husband, the table being told by her son who is unnamed in the novel. If not more than not, this tale complicates the matter of mental health into most imaginable dimensions. The protagonist is faced with intense love, hate and unease for his mother who the children fondly called “Em”. The undisclosed name of the protagonist itself in the tale seems to be alluding to this mix up of emotions that over power him in occasions he confronts with his mother’s lunacies. The bond between mother and the son in this framework of overpowering emotions is quite noteworthy. The son’s desire to imagine himself in a conventional “normal” family also comes from moments he felt distressed about having a mother who was unstable and hence cannot offer experiences from a typical mother-son relationship. Em’s interference with his life could very rarely be pleasant or as he notes could shatter one like glass (Pinto, 62). His hate and desire to be part of a normal family and not one with a mentally ill parent emanates from this unpredictability of his mother or rather her mental condition. Expanding within the domain of parent-child relationship, this narrative of the parents and their children opens up in varied levels between each generation. While there is a relation of conflict with the undercurrents of love between the mother and the son, the relationship between he and his father who the children called the “Big Hoom” as well as between Em and Em’s mother was also noteworthy. The protagonist could more easily love his father than his mother as he felt that his willpower and timely interference was the reason for any normalcy in life which
they could encounter. Even the relationship between Em and her mother seems to be much complicated even though the narrative does not elaborately touch upon this aspect. Anyhow Em’s difficult positions in life having catering to certain familial pressures definitely contributes her mental distress in later years of life. Another primary aspect in the novel is about the lives of caregivers of the menally ill. Being the children and the husband of a mentally distressed women calls for a different course of life for the son, Susan and Augustine. They are unable to function in capacities of their stereotypical roles and their lives call for a different role in each circumstances they encounter with the prime woman in their livee. The path they traverse with Imelda brings them to a varied stance each time they encounter her in her world. Imelda is the commander of their lives and all their life decisions have to cater to her unpredictable conditions. This takes a toll on them socially in addition to their mental distress as well. An intriguing part of the tale is the exploration of mental health as the narrative that weaves the lives of the characters together. This is in specific discussion in the chapter titled “Electro-convulsive throppy” (Pinto,194). This is where the protagonist discovers some disturbing elements about the medical system functioning around treating the mentally ill. Its relatable to the unquestioned modern medical system which grabs on people accused of mental illness even without a scientific diagnosis as portrayed in the malayalam film “Thaniyavarthanam” (1987). The protagonist has no conclusions or definitive points to describe his mother’s mental state but is in a constant state of making meanings or adding consequent layers of meanings as he is faced with his mother’s illness. It also makes the idea of mental health as an abstract concept beyond certainties that other branches of medical science may be able to come up with as diagnosis and treatment. It seemed to be the quest to discover the ultimate truth which would be a project that can be never complete but nevertheless cannot be left unattended. The tale also implicitly point at social exclusion and marginalisation of a family which has a mentally ill member. It points to a time when mental illnesses were viewed as perpetual, incurable and defilement of the immediate social environment the person is situated in. Even though the victimisation aspect of the patient taken ill does not take up a major thrust of the
novel, the very few responses from outsiders to the family enumerate these aspects that clearly marginalised the family as a whole from their surroundings. The children couldn’t really have a life apart from the one with their mother who required care. This was also catering to their lower middle-class standing which couldn’t afford a permanent caregiver from outside. Marginalisation or trauma from having to constantly negotiate with life as a migrant from Rangoon is in fact given as a plausible hint to the building up of Em’s mental instability. This also points to the important dimension to consider the mental aspects of people constantly facing issues negotiating to the environment they least imagined to be in and who are permanently left scarred by such an experience of forced migration. A similar emotional distress was explored in Sonita (2015) where a young teenage girl wished to flee off to U.S. than be in her homeland Afghanistan which would sell her off in marriage. But remorse is an under-current even in such decisions seemingly prospective and one is thrown into an internal conflict. Hence this aspect of Em’s background brought forth in the book alludes to a larger community globally who faces such distress for the most parts of their lives. Thinking from the perspective of social constructionism, Em’s character seems to undergo a process of “interactionism” as visible from her penchant for writing as well as “phenomenologically” immerses herself through her depiction of her own mental state (Conrad, Barkar). The phenomenological meaning is more implicit as the protagonist sometimes considered Em’s actions as a deliberative means to justify her mental illnesses she was seen as associated with. This story featuring the theme of mental health is one that has several undercurrents to its narrative even with its ease of delivery in terms of writing or by featuring a typical family in India which throws itself into an island of seclusion under the context of a mental illness. The sense that one makes of their own mental health, the meaning that is attributed for it from others, what it takes to negotiate life with such a play events in one’s daily life has been beautifully portrayed in this novel. A tale of nuance, exceptional thought process and mastery in capturing minds through simplicity, a must read!
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